Parenting Tips from Tips for Effective Parenting

The Five Critical Needs of Children

by Gerald Newmark, Ph.D.


 On January 15, 2009, the Project Partners of the Uniting Los Angeles for Effective Project met to discuss ways to advocate, celebrate, and promote effective parenting and parenting education.
A main speaker at the meeting was one of the Projects newest partners, Gerald Newmark, Ph.D. author of How To Raise Emotionally Healthy Children. Dr. Newmark captivated the groups attention by outlining what he feels are the “Five Critical Needs of Children.”
Here are Dr. Newmark’s five critical needs and what he has to say about them…
1. Need to Feel Respected

Children need to feel respected. For that to happen, they need to be treated in a courteous, thoughtful, attentive and civil manner-as individuals, deserving of the same courtesy and considerateness as others. One of the best ways for children to learn about respect is to feel what it’s like to be treated respectfully and to observe their parents and other adults treating each other the same way.


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Face Tough Financial Times with KIds by Talking, Having Fun  by Alyssa Martina, Detroit News 


Book  It’s hard to tune in to anything these days and avoid hearing the dismal economic news. For parents, financial worries mean having to pinch pennies as they take a new approach to family finances. The anxiety and strain of cutting back can prove a challenge when parents can’t afford to spend as much on their children as they had previously. From vacations and holiday gifts to groceries and family entertainment, parents, like never before, are scrutinizing what they’re spending.
However, cutting costs doesn’t necessarily have to mean cutting fun or family time together. Also, there are many ways to ensure your kids are free from the anxieties and concerns that parents face.
To begin, it’s important parents “check” their worries at the door. While you don’t want to paint a Disneyland fantasy of your situation, you want your kids to feel secure and hopeful. If you transmit your fears to your children, they’ll pick up on them and quickly internalize them as fears of their own. Of course, you should also take into consideration the age of your children and only have age-appropriate conversations with them.

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Kids and Moving 

by Diane Schmidt, About.Com


Just like Mailia and Sasha Obama,  the nation’s new “First Kids,” children need some special love and attention when it comes to moving into a new house or apartment. After their father was sworn in as the 44th President of the United States, the staff at the White House organized a scavenger hunt for the girls to help them get familiar with their new surroundings.
On the Web site, Diane Schmidt has an article, Kids and Moving – Helping Them Settle In.
Here are some of her tips and suggestions…


Kids and moving – it’s difficult and once all the packing and moving is completed now they need to settle into the new space. For children and teens this may be the hardest adjustment they have to make. Saying goodbye to old friends was difficult but the excitement of moving to a new home in a new neighborhood can sometimes reduce the initial anxiety they might feel.  
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Making Allowances Work  by Jody Johnston Pawel, Parent’s Tool Shop


Allowances are a controversial practice for developing responsibility. Some parents view allowance as a privilege children earn, while others view it as each family member’s right. Most parents connect allowances to chores – but this often leads to problems.
Both allowances and chores each teach life skills. Allowances can teach money management: how to earn, save, budget, and prioritize purchases. Chores can teach cooperation and responsibility: pitching in as a member of the family, following through on agreements, and doing quality work.
Separately, each is a valuable teaching tool. When combined, however, problems often arise.

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